Nurturing Thursday – Standards


Everyone is great at something
but no one is great at everything.
Find your strengths and
help others find theirs.
Nurturing around!



Frequent Contributors to
Nurturing Thursday:

Laurie’s Notes
Jacqueline King
Crowing Crone Joss
Inside the Mind of Isadora
Pocket Perspectives
Carole Carlisle
Sit, Stay! The Gift of Stillness and Christmas in September
Hugmamma’s Mind, Body and Soul


What is Nurturing Thursday, you ask?

In this amazingly competitive society of ours, how many of us truly feel good about ourselves? How often do we extend to ourselves … the same courtesies, considerations, nurturing, forgiveness and understanding we would a loved one, a friend, or even a stranger?

Our culture tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves. Yet, it is not possible for all of us to be above average at the same time. Don’t we usually know of someone richer, more attractive, “more together” or successful than we are? Even if we discount the material aspects and consider the more spiritual facet, don’t we know of those who seem more at peace, more aware or living in the moment. Even when we do manage to feel a strong sense of self-esteem or self-confidence, we are not able to consistently hold on to it. For most, our sense of self-worth bounces around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling strongly tied with our latest success or failure.

In an effort to eliminate labeling ourselves as “good” or “bad”, and clearly accept ourselves with an open heart … to treat ourselves with the same kindness, caring, and compassion we would show to a good friend … I would like to incorporate more self-compassion and self-kindess in my life.

To “give this planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy” … I am dubbing Thursdays as Nurturing Thursday … a spin-off of the suspended Occupy Blogosphere started by Amy of SoulDipper.

If any of my readers are interested in joining the nurturing, I applaud and welcome you to do so … the more the merrier!!


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About becca givens

Becca is an artist, poet, and animal communicator. She delights in cooking, nurturing, and sharing a rich spiritual life with others on the Path.
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34 Responses to Nurturing Thursday – Standards

  1. love this one Becca, so much more needs to be done to nurture those in education to praise instead of being critical … and to praise for the things they are good at, not all excel in the same topics..


  2. Renee Espriu says:

    So very true Becca. Hope your mother is doing alright. I think of you both.


  3. goks says:

    Reblogged this on The Sensations and commented:
    So True…


  4. hugmamma says:

    Great idea! I’ll try and contribute…as regularly as I can. 🙂


  5. This is so very true, Becca. It would be a boring world if we were all the same. It’s such a beautiful thing to see someone who is creatively different and proud of it.
    Lovely post …


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  7. Deb Weyrich-Cody says:

    Can you imagine what an incredibly BORING world this would be if we actually were ALL THE SAME? All hail Diversity!
    Too true about Gemma’s concept that each person’s 100% is Individually Unique. That’s something I’ve always wondered… Exactly who is it that decrees what is “Correct” or the determines the difference between “Mediocre” and “Excellent!”
    Great post: )


    • becca givens says:

      Thank you, Deb for visiting and leaving a wonderful comment. The issue addressed for today’s Nurturing Thursday would be so important to teach at a young age before peer pressure starts — and then advocated in the school system and social system- continuing through the years to reach into avenues of careers, friendships, dating and lifelong adventures.


      • Deb Weyrich-Cody says:

        You’re quite welcome Becca and thank you!
        Life would be so much easier if those currently on the periphery (outside the mean): were accepted and encouraged – more of “What CAN you do?”, as opposed to “No, you’re doing this all wrong!”
        To me, being called “Gifted” should either have a much wider focus than is currently the case OR be eliminated all together. To paraphrase Orson Scott Card (in the Alvin Maker Series), we all have “A Knack” in one way or another…


        • becca givens says:

          Well, I know for sure, in my upbringing, my self-confidence and self-esteem would be totally different — if I hadn’t felt like I was so deficient because my capabilities weren’t the same — now I know it was like comparing apples to oranges, or as far as climbing the tree — a fish to squirrel!!! 😀


  8. I used to tell my students “if you don’t understand something, it’s not because there is something wrong with you, it’s because I didn’t do my job properly and teach it in a way you understood. ” I stand by that. Kids don’t fail to learn, teachers fail to teach.
    here’s my post for today


    • becca givens says:

      That is a wonderful way to teach, Joss — wish more of my teachers had the same idea of teaching — as well as the teachers of today. I think this concept also should be ingrained in our upbringing from the time we are learning about ourselves, individuality, peers etc … all the way up the ladder into the world of adulthood. I always felt like I was missing something because more wrongs/weaknesses were pointed out than rights/strengths. Eveyone else always seemed to do better at “____” … I wish I had learned to delve into my individual gifts earlier in life. 😀 Thank you for your gift to students — including us as adults.


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  12. This is Tuesday’s post but it works for Nurturing Thur. And I linked it to you.

    As a retired school teacher your post today hits very close to home. Good work.


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  14. Kev says:

    Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant! 🙂


  15. Gemma says:

    Funny, but not. We are failing the children of today, miserably. Some parents. Some educators. Compassion, caring, loving, forgiving, and yes accepting that we are not all able to be at the top of the class, but we are all able to give 100%. That may mean different things to different people – adults included. Nurturing Thursday is a fabulous idea. It’s a start. Let’s get the rest of the week to play along!
    A former teacher.


    • becca givens says:

      Gemma — this really took hold with the teachers in all of us, but especially the formative teachers — current and retired. In addition, I wish this message was a way of upbringing as well — starting in preschool years and expanding throughout society for the adults as well. I KNOW it would have made my life easier 😀


  16. shoreacres says:

    How funny! And how true. Sometimes it takes a genius to express a truth simply enough that we all can grasp it!


    • becca givens says:

      Isn’t that the truth — I don’t know why a couple of weeks ago, this is the first I have read this quote … I’ve been saving it for Nurturing Thursday, but when I saw it in this format it cinched the image and the post date was moved up. 😀


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