Nurturing Thurs – Not Selfish

Self Care or Self Nurturing is not
the same as Self Indulgence

It is Self Respect!


Frequent Contributors to
Nurturing Thursday:

Pocket Perspectives
Jacqueline King
Laurie’s Notes
Inside the Mind of Isadora
Lady K’s Lounge

Crowing Crone
Carol Carlisle
Meg Evans



What is Nurturing Thursday, you ask?

In this amazingly competitive society of ours, how many of us truly feel good about ourselves? How often do we extend to ourselves … the same courtesies, considerations, nurturing, forgiveness and understanding we would a loved one, a friend, or even a stranger?

Our culture tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves. Yet, it is not possible for all of us to be above average at the same time. Don’t we usually know of someone richer, more attractive, “more together” or successful than we are? Even if we discount the material aspects and consider the more spiritual facet, don’t we know of those who seem more at peace, more aware or living in the moment. Even when we do manage to feel a strong sense of self-esteem or self-confidence, we are not able to consistently hold on to it. For most, our sense of self-worth bounces around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling strongly tied with our latest success or failure.

In an effort to eliminate labeling ourselves as “good” or “bad”, and clearly accept ourselves with an open heart … to treat ourselves with the same kindness, caring, and compassion we would show to a good friend … I would like to incorporate more self-compassion and self-kindess in my life.

To “give this planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy” … I am dubbing Thursdays as Nurturing Thursday … a spin-off of the suspended Occupy Blogosphere started by Amy of SoulDipper.

If any of my readers are interested in joining the nurturing, I applaud and welcome you to do so … the more the merrier!!



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About becca givens

Becca is an artist, poet, and animal communicator. She delights in cooking, nurturing, and sharing a rich spiritual life with others on the Path.
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11 Responses to Nurturing Thurs – Not Selfish

  1. I love hearing people who are on similar journeys! It’s so important to take the time to take care of yourself. I hadn’t read your blog before i wrote my own post on the same idea, but since you’ve asked people to join the journey, I’m going to add mine as well!


  2. Meg Evans says:

    Yes, having the well go dry is no fun, either for oneself or anyone else! Here’s my post:


  3. lauriesnotes says:

    filling up and over-flowing 🙂
    Happy Thursday with gentleness and love ❤ Laurie


  4. I know so well that I cannot operate on empty – we have to nourish ourselves, that way we’re more likely to nourish each other and the planet!


  5. Wise words Becca. Self-centredness or selfishness are totally different from being self aware and self nurturing. As you say, we need to fill up our own well before we can give to others from the overflow. If we just give all the time from an empty well we will burn out and be of no use to anyone. I know, I did that once a long time ago.


    • becca givens says:

      So many people confuse the two — they give give give, and then fall apart (mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually) when the reserves are depleted. As a general rule, I do not think we would purposefully stand by and watch a loved-one do this to themselves — but often accept as norm for ourselves. High prices are paid by all!


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